Interestingly since October is the month of Halloween, this month this section is all about the Death Card….most misunderstood card in Tarot. From what I tend to see, it is pretty much always misrepresented in movies and books featuring Tarot cards as part of the plot. The Death card tends to show up, …dum dum dum dum (ominous music) and soon after someone dies. When in reality that is not the real meaning of the card at all. There is nothing negative in it in reality, and in effect there ARE no negative Tarot cards. Tarot is a system designed to help up, make us feel better about where we are, and to help us live our best lives.
The real meaning of the Death card is simply something ending. It is a good positive ending, a necessary ending. The ending is necessary to clear the way for something better that is trying to get to us. Examples of things things the Death card may talk about are:
- graduation. Graduation signals the end of the person’s life as a student. And it paves the way for something better. A career where they can take pride in their new abilities
- marriage, which can signal the end of the person’s life as a single person, and the start of something better
- or even a job transfer where the person thinks they do not want to move to the new city. BUT when they do they meet the love of their life there. They work like in one city ended so that that better thing that was meant to come for them, could come.
That kind of thing is what the Death card means for me. Just something that ends because it is meant to end, so that something better can come your way. All in all a pretty positive card.
Related to this topic, this month I’ll be asking this month: “What good positive things can we look for and focus on in our lives, when something ends for us?”
I used the Oracle of Shadows and Light here for you, by Lucy Cavendish. As you can see, yes it is an ,oracle, not a Tarot and has only 45 cards total.
I chose this deck here as October is the month of Halloween and this is closest thing I have to a Halloweeny kind of “dark” deck. I says this is the closest thing I have because I am not fond of the dark decks. I like positive uplifting answers. I find this deck can still give me that. :-) And it is quite deep too. And that is why I love it so much.And well….it felt like a good choice for the month of Halloween.:-)
Here is what the cards had to say here in response to the question above:
Card 1: Fairy of the Highlands
As you can see, the words on this card say: “Time to be Brave”. This card says that when things change and end in our lives, there are a great many lessons we can learn from the experience. Lessons that can enrich us help strengthen us if we look for them and learn from them. Facing the unknown can teach us so many lessons about our courage. THESE LESSONS themselves are positive things and teach us what we need to know to create more positive things in our future.
But there is more to the message than that. This card also says that when something ends in our lives we learn a lot (often through trial and error) about which methods of handling change are more effective and which are less effective. As change IS a constant throughout life and nothing stays the same forever, learning the most effective ways to deal with is can be very important indeed.
The image shows the Fairy of the Highlands holding her sword with both hands, but not (yet) using it. Instead she is looking at the situation and studying it with her big beautiful eyes. There is a look of sadness there, which yes we may feel sometimes when things end. But she is being careful not to act impulsively without thinking things out first.
She says that we have within us all that we need to create the best of new situations. What comes to us comes because we are able to handle it. We have what we need inside. It’s there and we can find it if we look. And when we look, at these times, what we find enriches us for a long time to come. And leads to more good things to come
Card 2: Lady with a Bosch Egg
This card is about your unique inner wisdom, that is unique to you. That comes form deep inside you, YOUR inner Truth. When things end in our lives, we may not know quite how to react or handle it. That is when it becomes a good time to stop. slow down, and listen in
The image shows an egg that has started to hatch. Endings are also beginnings. They give us a new chance to head off in a new direction, to become something we have not yet been, to grow in new ways, to become something more. They free us from going in one direction and that frees us to choose anew where we want to go and who we want to be. There is a hidden treasure in this. This card says we can look for that, try to see what more we can be and do now that we are not tied to one particular path. What DO we want to be and do? We can slow down and listen in to our inner wisdom and follow where it wants to go to be our best selves.
We can also learn from the ending and what caused things to end, so that we do make better choices in the future and this also is a good and positive thing. We learn lessons on things like when and how it is best to assert our feelings and when it may be better to hold our tongues, for example. And this can help create some healthy growth in our lives in the future.
Card 3: Grumpy Red Fairy
This card says that when things end, it is a good time to treat yourself kindly. You need that at a time like this. And also you need to be your true self. Hold to your true inner values, live up to YOUR standards, follow YOUR truth.
This card is really about living your life on your terms. Being who YOU want to be in this world, rather that trying to live up to other people’s expectations or rules for you. Setting your own rules for your own life, according to your own inner truth and wisdom and being your own person.
It’s about not taking to heart any judgments other people try to place on you. Knowing that living up to your own rules for your life matters more. The message here is about not letting other people’s judgments on you or on your life make you feel “grumpy”. Seeing them as just the other person’s baggage and not Truth.
So this card is saying that when something ends in our lives, it gives us a chance to look at all this. At why things ended. Were we being true to our real inner selves, or trying to live up to someone else’s ideals which did not accurately represent the person we are? How did that affect things?
If we felt hurt by the way things ended, why? Which part of our true inner selves was touched and what was its needs. The more we learn to respect and be our true selves, the more smoothly things will likely run in the future.
This message here is about embracing your differences and loving them for what they say about the real you. This says to embrace what is unique in your and don’t be afraid to show it. Better than being a carbon copy of everyone else. You were created to be different because it’s your differences that make you beautiful. Show your inner beauty to the world, Own it. Be it.
When something ends in your life, you no longer have to follow the pattern that it had you in. THEN you can break out and choose new paths and show that true inner you more and more and let her/him shine.
Card 4: flipped Faceless Ghosts and the Haunted Girl
This last card was a flipped card, card that flipped out of the deck during shuffling. Flipped cards have deep meanings, levels of depth like an onion. When a flipped card comes up it asks you to think a bit on the message of the card. It says there is something deeper there than you might notice the first time you read the message.
And well, you have to admit that this is a good Halloween-type card, talking about ghosts and haunting. LOL
This card says that when something ends in our lives, we can at times feel a bit “haunted” by it. In the sense that we still feel the presence of what it lost around us for a time afterwards. If we lose a job we may tend to wake up at the same time and start to get ready before we remember. If a relationship ends we may tend to expect that person to be where they have always been at the same time in the past. It’s become a habit.
Here is the interesting part of the message though. When something ends for us and we realize it fully, it allows us to take off the mask and just be. To just be us. A job can be almost part of our identity. We may see it as part of who we are. But when it is gone, we find it’s not. We are still 100% us, even without it. In reality it is not really part of who we are inside. We take off the mask of being an employee of that company of in that field and then see who we really are underneath.
If a relationship ends, we are part of a couple. Half of that couple. We wear the mask for being a gf/bf……..But if that ends, then we get to take off that mask and see what is really us underneath. Maybe we’ll find hidden parts of ourselves we’d buried but which will now bring us joy. And find some new ways to be us and express our true selves. If it ended because things were not working (and relationships rarely end because things are working), then that gives us new ways to find out more of who we are inside and to freely be that person and live our real joy.
In essence all these cards have a very similar message here. It’s that when you lose something in your life, then it is s good time to find yourself. To connect to what and who you are deep inside and to find new ways to proudly be and show the world that person and her/his inner beauty.